Do you want to change things up a bit in the bedroom – read on and see how you can make things a little more exciting.
1. Learning New Sex Positions
One of the easiest, and possibly the most effective way of keeping things interesting is learning new sex positions. It’s actually the reason why I built the Sex Positions section for the Bad Girls Bible. It had photos and detailed explanations of more than 100 different sex positions.
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If you think your man is not too keen on trying out new sex positions, you’ll have to be the one to take action. Pick several positions from the sex positions sections (only 1 or 2) and have them in mind the next time you’re in bed with your partner. In fact, you don’t even have to tell him that you want to try them. Rather, you can just take the position and help guide your man.
You might feel a bit nervous while trying this, especially if you have never taken the lead in bed before. But trust me, your man will enjoy it. You’ll find that it’s more comfortable to try out positions that are easy to transition to and don’t need lots of flexibility.
2. Explore His Fantasies
Everyone has their own sexual fantasies. Yeah, everyone! However, many people tend to think that their fantasies are a little “out there” or weird. As such, some women don’t want to tell their man about their fantasies due to a fear of potential embarrassment or their partner thinking that they are weird.
But the truth is your man will be thinking about the same thing.
So, if there are any fantasies that turn you on, things that you never really get to experience in real life; why not explore them with someone you cared about? The following instructional video might be shocking for you, but it’ll teach you one or two things about how you can make a man utterly obsessed with you by using 3 simple techniques. Be sure to check it our below to learn how.
Without feeling embarrassed or getting judged?
In the course of the coming weeks, I’ll be covering the various strategies and tactics that you can use so that it’s easy and fun to share your fantasies. However, for the time being, trying having the following 5 things in mind while sharing your fantasies with your man.
Start with the Tamest Ones
It’s easy to begin sharing your tamest fantasies first, and then gradually build up to the wild ones once you are both a bit more comfortable. Of course, you need to be more welcoming and open to his, even if you have no intention trying them out. In other words, you shouldn’t be too judgmental. So, don’t force it. If he doesn’t open up, forcing him will only make him try to close up further.
Use positive reinforcement tactics such as rewarding him for opening up, and he will be more likely to open up in the future. It can be as simple as saying, “I’m kind of willing to try that too”, or giving him a cheeky “cool”.
Keep all of this secret between you and your man.
Explore your submissive side and becoming dominant.
In most relationships, one partner is slightly more dominant in the bed than the other, who is slightly more submissive. This is not in the D/S sense, but in the sense that one partner will always be more eager to try out new things, engage the other in sex, or change position.
A great idea of spicing things up is changing your role the next time you’re in bed with your partner. So, if your man is the one who’s usually dominant, try to beat him to the punch and instead change positions. Ensure that you try out a few sex positions as well.
Maybe he’s the one who usually initiates sex. For a change, try being the aggressor this time. If you’re the one who usually starts foreplay, this time try to hold out until he does. While it might be uneasy for you to change roles at first, don’t worry, your man will be pleasantly pleased.
You’ll surely find the dirty talking you’ve learnt from the video tutorials as a great introduction to learning how you can be more dominant through dirty talk in a way that builds up sexual tension, and in turn makes him more attracted to you and turns him on. Enjoy!
Pinch his ass
It probably sounds like the most ridiculous sex tip ever, but you’ll be surprised how effective it is. The next time you say goodbye to your man, while you lean forward to kiss him, simply grab his ass with your hand.
Make it quick, and don’t say anything about it. You don’t even have to explain it in case he asks why you did it. Just smile at him. It might be a little confusing for the man, but it’s a sure sign that you really like him and that you can also be naughty.
Caveat: avoid using this every single day or week. Make it something you use once a month to keep the mystery alive while keeping things fun and flirty.
Make Use of Sex Toys
Using sex toys is great idea when you want to spice things up. You can actually get a sex toy for everything; for her, for him, for your clitoris, and for his penis. When you use sex toys during foreplay, you’ll get each other hot and bothered before sex. This will be great for your sex, and the toys can be used instead of sex.
However, keep in mind that if you rely on sex toys solely, things will inevitably start getting routine and boring. A great way to look at sex toys is viewing them as a spice, not as the main course – check out this sex tech guide.
Get into the shower with him
This easy tip is just as pinching his ass. You need to use it sparingly if you’d like to have it stay effective. So, the next time your man is jumping into the shower, join him a minute later. From there, you’ll know what to do:
•You can choose to do nothing else but wash him. It’s surprisingly sexy!
•You can choose to have sex. Though you may find that water and shampoo can dry your natural lubrication quickly.
•You can even give him a blowjob. If you do this, try putting a towel under your knees, or your knees could get very sore.
The lack of buildup, tension, and anticipation before having sex with your man is one of the key reasons why sex becomes dull and boring over time. For most couples, sex is just a routine; usually either every evening or morning.
To break the monotony, it’s important to build anticipation to something that he isn’t really expecting. So, if you’re on vacation with some friends, send him a text and let him know that you’re missing (and tell him how horny you are).
Let your man know that you have a surprise for him or what you’re planning to do to him as soon as you return. And in detail…
You can also try this right after leaving for work or school.
Caveat: just like with the other tips, try to use this sparingly, or it could get pretty boring quickly.
Dressing Up for your man
This is a simple sex tip, which is in a way related to the last sex tip – building anticipation. Dressing up for him doesn’t mean wearing a costume or dressing up in super slutty clothes. Rather, it means wearing provocative clothes; ideally something that will make him look at you twice. This will remind him of why he likes you so much.
This can be something such as a short that’s a bit shorter than normal, a great top that cuts low, or something that accentuates your good points.