For people in or out of relationships, this is one of the most frequently asked questions. We all want to be loved and cared for. We all want a magical connection, with each day filled with laughter and lovely moments.
Some were able to find their path to happiness and stuck with it. Others are dealing with their fair share of heartbreaks and disappointments. Relationships are more like a journey, and along the way, there are all kinds of experiences.
So many researchers have tried to come up with formulas for the perfect relationship but still don’t have all the answers. However, some proven tips can help improve your connection with your partner so your relationship can be a happier one.
Communication Is More Than Words
The word communication is sometimes misunderstood to mean talking, but it is more. It includes verbal, non-verbal, personal, impersonal exchange of thoughts, emotions, decisions, and actions. The first of these, however, is talking to your partner. No partner is a genius, and they would never know how you feel when you don’t tell them. It is easier to have a meaningful and beautiful life when you can express yourself through words. Some people don’t know how to do this, but they have other means of communicating. As a partner, you should pay attention to your spouses’ way of communicating. That is how you establish a unique connection. Do more than hear, listen.
Being Sensitive, Seeing With Your Heart
Sometimes words fail to express certain emotions, and you can only notice them when you observe your partner closely. We sometimes don’t know how we feel or why we feel the way we do. At such moments, things can get a bit awkward. A partner who doesn’t understand might feel left out. Being sensitive is knowing when your partner needs a hug, your silence, their space, or some support. It takes sensitivity to notice the mood swings, irritations, stress or pressure, pain, excitement, discomfort, fear, and anger in your partner. You can decipher what the causes are and do your best to avoid them in the future.
Attitude Is Everything
Now we all come from different backgrounds. Some are similar, while others are entirely different. The lessons learned over the years influence our perception, schemas, ideologies, and responses to life’s circumstances. It is necessary to understand your partner’s family background, so you don’t get shocked by their opinions of life. A positive attitude is helpful in relationships. It is knowing that life isn’t just about success but also about failures. And how we get through the tough times is based on this understanding. So, when the storms come, know they are part of life. In the end, it is just a storm, so you have to decide what is more important, the storm you are facing or the person.
Appreciation Is Attention Driven
Lack of appreciation can make a partner feel ignored. Some partners rarely observe the events in their partner’s lives. It is so bad they don’t see the gestures, attention, care, affection, and neediness of their partners. In relationships, appreciation builds trust, confidence, and fires up the much-needed connection. When you appreciate, you inspire your partner to do more and be more. When you don’t pay attention, you don’t notice any changes, and gradually you kill the momentum of our relationship. You also open the door for relationship poachers. Regardless of what it is your partner did, how well or how bad, show some appreciation. It makes them know you got their back anytime, every time.
Identify Their Love Language
People have different ways of expressing their deepest emotions. A great writer once wrote about five love languages. In the book, quality time, physical touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, and giving gifts were how people expressed themselves. There could be more ways to find out how your partner loves to be loved and build the connection. These are the moments where you create lasting memories because everything you do here reaches into their soul.
Grow in relationships should be symbiotic. When it is not, detachment begins to occur. Your relationship goes deeper and grows fonder when you are both headed in the same direction. Maybe not exactly, but both of you are making progress together. As you chase after your dreams, assist your partner in fulfilling theirs. You don’t have to be all up in their business, but suggestions and introductions could go a long way. If you know where their interest lies, you can offer support in that area, do a bit of publicity, and more.
Relationships are not rocket science. If you want to be with someone, this should be easy. So, make up your mind on what you want and get to it. Remember, no one is perfect for you, but it is left for you to work till it works, or dump it if it hurts.